Referring to “little changes, Bigger Life”, we can consider making changes in how we talk to ourselves. You don’t talk to yourself? Oh, you do… Most of us engage in self talk much more than we realize. Some people talk out loud to themselves. Others have more of an inner dialogue that happens. Whichever it is, it’s important to be aware of what we’re saying to ourselves.
For me, most of my inner (and outer…yes, I do talk to myself) dialogue is positive. That is to say, I talk happy. That is to say, I talk about happy things happening in my life, and of happy things I envision for my life. I talk in a happy, upbeat way. It is amazing how much of an influence this has on my actual happiness. The way we talk to ourselves is one of those “little changes” that lead to that “Bigger Life”. So, I suggest you be aware of your dialogue with yourself and talk happy. It will help make you feel happy.
The other think I suggest people to do is to talk happy with everyone they come into contact with. When someone asks me how I’m doing, I tell them I’m great. Not good, not OK, not “not too bad”… GREAT! And I mean it. I talk to people about how happy and fulfilled I am, and about how much I appreciate all of life each day. I have seen tremendous response from other people when I do this. Most of all, I have seen tremendous results in myself.
Think about how difficult it would be for you to feel down or sad if you’re always talking about how happy and grateful you are. It is, in fact, very unlikely for someone who is talking with themself and others about how happy they are, to feel anything other than…well, happy!
When we talk about being happy, we are confirming to the universe that we are happy. The other side of this coin is that if we talk about how sad we are, or how difficult our life is, we are confirming that also. We are declaring, either inwardly or outwardly that our mood and our life is determined by external circumstances. If we weren’t declaring that, obviously we would choose to be happy, right? Well, there are some people in this world who seem to be more comfortable with unhappiness and difficulty as their state of being. However, that can, and does, change everyday. Anyone is capable of re-orienting themself to the more positive talk and perception of their life. That’s what BeMeBetter is here for.
But for most people, if we only realize that our happiness is determined internally rather than by outside “stuff”, we would choose to be happy. I believe that talking happy is a powerful tool in keeping this knowledge in our conscious thoughts. Even more important than that, it’s just a whole lot of fun. That is what life is all about, after all; having fun, being happy and enjoying all of it!
Today I am grateful for Happy Talk.
April 3, 2011 at 6:52 am
Dale Carnegie told participants in his motivational programs: Act enthusiastic and you’ll be enthusiastic!
And so it is. :0)